How to Have More Self-Confidence

You Can Become More Self-Confident

Building confidence is a necessary exercise for many of us. If self-confidence does not come naturally, building it up takes deliberate, conscious effort.

Here are some hints that may help you build up your sense of confidence.

7 Helpful Hints on How to Have More Self-Confidence

1) Set realistic goals for yourself. Write them down. Make a list of all of your goals, long and short term, and then below each goal write the steps it will take to get there.

Breaking your goals into small, easily attainable steps will make them much less daunting.

Whether it’s relationships, business ventures, or self-improvement, writing your goals and their necessary steps can make those goals much less formidable and much more doable. That alone helps you feel more confident in moving forward.

2) Stop comparing yourself to others. While it’s good to have aspirations toward self-improvement, constantly comparing yourself to the best of the best can get discouraging.

For example, if you’d like to have a talk radio show or Podcast, you might be inspired by high-profile radio hosts. Being inspired by them is fine, but beating yourself up because you are not exactly like they are – complete with millions of listeners – will only discourage you.

3) Stop expecting the worst of yourself. When you are certain you are going to fail before you try, you are more likely to fail when you do try. This is nothing more than a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you have a negative self-image and think you can’t achieve anything, it’s likely that you won’t – thus underscoring this false impression about yourself.

Stop listening to the negative inner voice and instead tell yourself that you can achieve your goals and, even if you fail, it’s not because you are a bad person or because you didn’t try.

4) Celebrate your accomplishments. If you are lacking self-confidence, you likely have a bad habit of remembering all the times you messed up and forgetting all the times you shone.

Take some time to remind yourself of all the times you did a great job.

5) Get to know yourself. This means spending some quiet time thinking or writing in a journal – some quiet time by yourself in which you assess your strengths, weaknesses, and personality.

What are your character traits? What quirks and talents do you have?

Pretend that you are being interviewed and that the interviewer is trying to get to know you. What questions would she ask?

6) Turn off the media. For a while, it might be good to turn off the TV and put down the magazines. The perfect-people images found in the media can be discouraging for those who are struggling with self-confidence.

Allow me to let you in on a secret. The perfect people in those magazines aren’t necessarily happy with themselves either. We all need to do a better job of loving and accepting ourselves as we are.

7) Help somebody else. One of the best ways to grow in self-confidence is to reach out to someone who needs you.

Get outside of your own head and get some fresh air. It will do you a world of good to volunteer at a soup kitchen or go for a walk with a friend.

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